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Post by froman on Jan 11, 2004 15:53:35 GMT -5
ok so i dont know about the rest of you but i knwo for me at least i have a hard time with my parents, my dad thinks im a pain in the ass and always yells at me and my mom just doesnt even care. now the way ive been coping with it is just not to think about it and just to know that everything will be my way when i get out of high school and live on my own. the thing is its starting to bother me and so far the way ive been keeping it inside is by talking to a few freinds thatr i know for a fact i can trust and understand what im sayign because they feel the same way. but the thing is i go to a school where most (if not all) the kids go to israel for a couple months at the end of the year and i cnat go, i dont know what is going to happen to me because im not going to have those friends to talk to as much (i mean theyre going to call me but i don think itll be like everyday like it is now), i was just wondering if anyone had any way they could help, any suggestions of what to do, or just comments, im just trying to start this board up and these are some very serious issues.......plese help me
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Post by supersaiyan3 on Jan 11, 2004 16:40:13 GMT -5
despite what many people think i don't think talking about it with other people solves anything because the problems still exist. Part of the reason people have problems with their parents is because kids have a natural fear for their parents. The key to changing things around is to take the fear out of you and stick it in your parents. Go PHYCO on them whenever they do something you dont like. Start screaming and yelling and slamming doors and even breaking things or using violence if you need to. Your parents will think twice before fucking with you.
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Post by themayflower on Jan 11, 2004 18:23:34 GMT -5
i disagree w/ ss3 that you should go phsycho ont hem and shit- you wanna fix the relationship not ruin it further..... talking to someone like your friend helps because they comfort you and can give suggestions- i dunno if ss3 was talking about this or therapy- i hate therapy! but the thing is if you go the therapist will have a consultation w/ your parents- so if oyu have some real issues you can tell the therapist and she can relate it to your parents. you shoudl just sit your parents down and explain to them- do this w/ your mom cuz shes always more caring then your dad- plus when the time comes and your friends go away- im pretty sure youll get closer w/ other people who have stayed behind in your grade or diff grades- and youll be able to talk to them and stuff like that- but thats 3 months away so dotn worry bout that right now- anything could happen
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Post by supersaiyan3 on Jan 11, 2004 18:25:26 GMT -5
but talking doesnt do anything.....action is how to get the job done....make your parents fear you....thats how to take control
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Post by themayflower on Jan 11, 2004 18:29:36 GMT -5
froman- do you want your parents to fear you and get control or do you wanna have a good relation ship w/ them and be able to talk to them and care about you and not yell at you?
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Post by supersaiyan3 on Jan 11, 2004 18:51:49 GMT -5
i am a total and complete phyco whenever my parents piss me off at all.....yet we still have a great relationship.....my parents know that unless its a very important topic not to piss me off because its not worth the trouble....there are alot less fights because its not worth it for my parents to fight with me......fear is a wonderful thing
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Post by froman on Jan 11, 2004 20:36:49 GMT -5
all i want is for high school to be over so that i can get out of this whole situation,its hell, everything is wrong with my life and no-one can change it, i dont have control anymore and its such a bad feeling to know that you dont have control of your own life. have you ever just leyed in bed look up at the ceiling and just think about everything and try to make sense of it all? i do that every night and every night i go to sleep hating myself, i dont think anyone really understands what its liek to truly hate yourself and everything about you. the only thing i have to look foward to is my own life...college my own family...... until then im just going to have a horrible time
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Post by supersaiyan3 on Jan 11, 2004 20:39:57 GMT -5
i used to be like that....i used to lay awake hating all the decisions i made....untill i realized it wasnt myself i hated....it was everyone else....i made a vow to do something about it.....there will be a day when we can make our own decisions and live freely....untill that day we fight
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Post by goisles7204 on Jan 11, 2004 21:14:06 GMT -5
your parents should beat the fucking shit out of you ss3-i really dont give a fuck how you feel about them-their your fucking parents show them some fucking respect instead of "taking over"-im sure when you have kids(if you have any)that you wouldnt like them being radical little punks-hell no-youd beat them
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Post by supersaiyan3 on Jan 11, 2004 21:17:17 GMT -5
first off my dad would die if we had a serious fight.....he knows it and i know it.....my parents deserve what they get because they didnt beat me when i was a kid....sure my dad hit me a few times but he didnt beat me.....theres a huge difference between corporal punishment and beating.....but parents should hit their kids when they do something wrong.....my parents didnt do that and it allowed me to become a defiant boy who has more control than he should.
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Post by themayflower on Jan 11, 2004 21:52:27 GMT -5
ss3-yes but do you and your parents have a good relationship? they allow oyu to be defiant and you know it- that isnt the case with most people.
froman- dont think like that- do you have anybody you can talk to? like a best friend or soemthing-they usually can help you see the positive
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Post by i got issues on Jan 12, 2004 16:06:17 GMT -5
Well, heres another thing that can go under this topic. Parents honestly sucka dn u have to know to what extent you can get things out of them. The only plus though is that ur parents are only with u till after high school. Honestly, i think the only was to resolve it if you really want to make astrong effort is too get both ur parents together, sit them down, and purely talk. Tell them u cant insult each other, me, my school, my brother etc. and tell them how you really feel. If they reaslly care im sure theyll listen if u really open up and if they dont so screw them, just keep to the thought ull be out after HS.
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Post by SNAPPLESareKWLtmrw on Jan 12, 2004 19:08:30 GMT -5
WTVR like i know this doesnt wrk for evryone but for me when my perants du somthing stupid i try not to get to upset about it bc no mttr what its not ganna help i just walk away lock my door and turn on music.... i mean it doenst help evryone but id rather not say naything id regret or like wtv i just think they have isues and i have to deal bc that the way the the wrld goes...
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Post by supersaiyan3 on Jan 12, 2004 19:11:14 GMT -5
yeh when im pissed off and i dont feel like going phyco i just sit back and listen to some rage against the machine or slipknot or something.....it helps alot
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Post by froman on Jan 14, 2004 20:04:21 GMT -5
do you guys think i should talk to them or just ignore it?
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